Testimonials

Open Letter from a Coaching Client
April 18, 2019

To Whom It May Concern,

I have been working with Elayne for over 4 years to guide me through the process of managing the care of my parents who both have dementia. I initially called when times were extremely tough and I was at a loss for how to deal with the situation. I felt like I had the weight of the world on my shoulders and I was standing on a deserted island made of quicksand.

I recall in great detail my initial one and a half hour conversation, and everything I was told sounded so logical but, at the time, seemed impossible to implement. After all, they are my parents. They are supposed to be the ones calling the shots. They are supposed to be the strong ones. They are supposed to be happy for me and allow me to enjoy my life that they helped me prepare for.  I spent my most of my career building and running a successful company and I am a problem solver. Why can’t I solve this problem? Answer: it is an unsolvable problem. The good news: it can be managed.

I had an initial meeting with Elayne and she started to coach me on how to manage the situation. Just like any significant change we try to make in ourselves, it takes lots of repetition, practice and time. The mantra she taught me that I always go back to for comfort in the process is – I am doing my best to make sure that my parents are safe and well cared for. That is all we can do. Remember, we can’t fix the underlying problem. That mantra has given me comfort when I wish the circumstances could be better. 

Elayne performed a detailed assessment of my parents and provided a written care navigation plan. Elayne, my wife (a significant part of the care team) and I met regularly to update on the status and discuss the next steps. Elayne always emphasizes the need for us to take care of ourselves as caregivers. We forget to do that, particularly as we see ourselves as beholden to our parents. Her guidance has always been on point. Elayne utilized my experience and personality to guide me to tap into my strengths to utilize in the process. She taught me that I needed to build a team and manage that team, just like at work – find the best and get rid of those that don’t perform. That applied to the various doctors (primary care, neurologist, and geriatric psychiatrist), adult day care center, private live-in caregivers, etc. She helped me find and evaluate each of these members of my team.

Early in the process, Elayne  guided me on the process of having a durable power of attorney and health care surrogate documents for my parents and introduced me to an attorney that assisted in the process. When my mom went through a rough patch with her health, I was guided through the process of getting her on hospice to assist in the care.

While my goal has been to keep my parents in their home, we are now at the point where we need to evaluate moving them to an assisted living facility. This is another tough decision in this journey that we all never want to have to make. Remember the mantra – do our best, safe and well cared for. Elayne has guided me as to what I need to look for in a facility given my parents particular situation and needs. She helped call facilities to ask the tough questions and helped develop a plan for transition. This leg of the journey is still in process, but I am confident that with the guidance of Elayne and her team everything will be OK.

There were definitely some challenging times with caring for my parents over the last four years. However, I know for certain that it has been a lot better than it would have been without the help of Elayne. I am forever grateful for all they have done for me and my family.

Sincerely,

F. Laporte
 
Additional Testimonials

Annette ~ Coaching Client

Dear Elayne,
Today was a very important day in my life. The hour spent with you, as I embark on this new chapter in my life, added the fuel I needed as I navigate this bumpy course. How does one begin to thank you for sharing your knowledge, insight and wisdom with those of us living this torment.

I am excited to be part of the group you are starting on Wednesday and how very grateful I am to know that you and  your associates are there for us.

Fondly,
Annette

Janet C. ~ Coaching Client

Dear Elayne,
It was our pleasure to meet with you and listen to your kind generous words of wisdom. First, for you to meet with us in a moment of severe family crisis was a gift from God. 
Your ability to center our chaotic moments of confusion and lead and guide us to a place of stability was priceless. Your knowledge is very powerful and your innate passion for helping people made us all feel amazingly safe before leaving to head home.

I feel confident that my dad’s future care will provide him with much love, comfort, safety and joy. I know this is the beginning of a long journey but I know I am in the right place, surrounded by the right people. I can’t thank you enough for your generosity and such a kind act of love to meet with us instantaneously.

Respectfully,
Janet C. & Family

Susan R. ~ Coaching Client

Dear Elayne, Thank you so much for the time you spent with me and the valuable information you shared. It’s good to talk with someone who knows what you are going through because sometimes it feels that you are all alone in this adventure. I guess all I can do is the best I can do for as long as I can do it! If things get to a point where I, myself, need extra help I will certainly give you a call. I will look for the calendar of events and maybe attend a support meeting. Thanks again for your time. 
Susan R.